Did you know that you are a leader? Parents are leaders.
As our own kids have gotten older, we’ve realized that we can’t just push or coerce them down a certain path. We must focus on leading and preparing them. As the saying goes, we must “prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child.”
The ideas in these books are helping us to do just that.
Often we fail miserably, but sometimes we get it right. We hope these books help you, too! (I’ve read every book recommended.)
If you want your kids to understand why your family has certain guidelines and get them involved in creating a technology plan read:
Start With Why by Simon Sinek
You may have seen Simon Sinek’s TED talk: How Great Leaders Inspire Action or read the book, Start With Why. Do you remember his Golden Circle model? This can help us to reach our kids in a better way. By starting with why, we tap into the limbic part of the brain, which controls decision making.
We don’t want to just tell our kids what to do, we want to help them see the reason behind why they are doing it. This idea led to the creation of our Family Tech Think Tank.
If you want help leaning into difficult discussions and learning how to “rumble” (a real discussion) with your kids in a productive way:
Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
One of my favorite lines from the book is, “Daring leaders who live into their values are never silent about hard things.” A lot of parenting is hard. Add in the subject of smart phones and video games, and the conversation gets even more interesting! But we don’t need to let that keep us from having crucial conversations with our kids. Brené gives us the tools to have these conversations. (Fair warning: Brené likes her cuss words.)
If you’re interested in learning how to look at the big picture; such as starting with the end in mind and learning how to put first things first, then read:
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
The late Stephen R. Covey is one of the best leadership mentors out there. He includes examples of family life throughout this book. I return to the ideas in this book again and again. You might also enjoy his other book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families.
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